Thursday, March 14, 2019

It is OK not to know who you are



You should reset every 4 years BUT own who you were back then but you can be a different person each 4 years...

Today's Social Media hot potato #metoo is digging up something someone said 10 years ago and claiming they are the same person... well they usually aren't>

Thinlking back 4 years ago - are you the same person as then?? I bet you have heard the saying "You can't say that anymore!" you what, that means you could say that once upon a time... you know how all jokes that were "Insert type of person here " have to be "plain vanilla" now. Like the three "Insert insult here" has become three "nongender identified persons" - it is a challenge because the joke needs to be good to get a laugh.

Want to hear more of this enlightening though challenge? Can I suggest you listen to a podcast with Jordan Harbinger and Charlamagne tha God Lenard Larry McKelvey a very popular American radio Shock Jock who is obvious mellowing as he passes 40. He says the 25-year-old him doesn't resemble the 40-year-old him - BUT he says he is proud of his warts and all 25 old self because it got him to the 40-year-old version.

@cthagod #cthagod #WayneMansfield #rebootology

Tuesday, March 12, 2019

If you didn't like it does that mean it isn't any good?



I listened to an audiobook yesterday and was a little disappointed with the content.

The title suggested it was about 2018 hacks but it was about investing in real estate.. and used examples of properties that cost under $200k Now in Australia that is fantasy [ especially in 2019 - the TV ads talk about bargain at $800k ] and if I wanted a real estate strategy book I would have grabbed that.

I suppose I should have expected that content wouldn't match the title [Ithink that is called Click Bait] but after investing a few hours I felt "cheated" But was the book bad or did it just not match my expectation?

Should I get my money back or add it in the column where I have traded Money for experience?



#Rebootology #WayneMansfield #SMM2019

Monday, March 11, 2019

Three Steps forward - Two Steps Back is progress



After a painful end to a holiday in Europe last year - the F.U. money dried up - I made a decision to re-invent myself.

Progress hasn't been as quick as I thought it would be and every now and then plans hit brick walls,

As I do each morning, I listen to a podcast on my morning walk... Monday is usually a slow day for podcasts as it is co-insides with  Sunday in the US, but this morning, waiting for me to listen was a short [ 11 minutes ] podcast from "The One You Feed" which takes it names from the old American Indian story of two wolves... and the message was, Consistent action leads to success, BUT you will always be knocked off course.

The message was, it is the one who finishes who wins.. regardless of how many times they were knocked down. As long as you get back up.

Here are some knockdowns over the last few days - my weight went up from 74.8k to 76.2k... and I was disappointed until I looked at my start weight of 90.3k, so I doubled down yesterday and the scales this morning have been rewarding with a reading of 75.6k before the 10k walk.

My business results have been patchy but today three new clients signed on.

Three steps forward two steps back is still one step forward!

#WayneMansfield #Rebootology #DirtyLittleSecret

Sunday, March 10, 2019

What do the airlines know about "DMDLS"




On Friday I got emails from Qantas, Jetstar, Qatar Airlines, APT Touring, Emirates..

Why?? They are marketing to a known flyer by the most effective Digital Marketing Platform - email! Are you using email effectively?? Reply to me and I will send you an outline of Direct Marketing's Dirty Little Secret!

#DirtvlittleSecret #Rebootology #WayneMansfield #Rebootology

Saturday, March 09, 2019

What would Zig Say?




When I started listening to motivation messages it was on cassette tape... Earl Nightingale's Strangest Secret and Zig Ziglar's See YOU at the TOP! I can nearly recall word for word Zig's story about "getting cooked in the squat"

Now we have podcasts and each morning I listen to words of wisdom from today's Sages - Andy Presella, Joe Polish, Stephen Dubner.... but those smooth words of Zig are missed... A few days ago I listened to a James Altucher podcast with John Maxwell and it sounded like a modern Zig - they were promoting John's new book Leadershifts... and since then I have found John Maxwell's podcast which have commentary by younger members of his team - geez John is  a young 71 as this is written - which gives the message a wider bite... but I suggest if you miss the Wisdom of Zig [ who passed at 82 ] catch anything to do with John Maxwell. If bible quotes get in the way of the message screen them out... in or out, the message is powerful. And the John Maxwell Company is the World's largest Leadership Organisation now...

Friday, March 08, 2019

Digital Marketings Dirty Little Secret



Yesterday I had coffee with one of the worlds best salesmen who sells $10 million in solutions to the customer experience. He said that he often feels like telling them to investigate email marketing.
Of all the things invented by the internet, email has lasted the longest and is still relevant.
Did you know that even when it works, Social media marketing has an open rate of 0.5% whereas even untargeted email is 5% or 10 times [ 1000% ] better than that... and if people actually know you [ like clients ] it can be 30% and for GREAT clients it can be as high as 90%.
So what is the dirty little secret?? Try sending email and see what happens, The gatekeepers Google and Facebook have made it very difficult - if you have used MailChimp and get one complaint they shut you down...
And you are forced to use Google Adwords or Facebook Sponsored Posts... and it is common to hear that people are spending 10's of $1000's a month on these applications...
However, most companies have a CRM [ Customer Relationship program] which usually has the clients' contact details.... and email costs a few dollars a month regardless of how many you send and you have your marketing fixed.
Mmmm tell me more - OK but only if you ask nicely.

Wednesday, March 06, 2019

The Seminar Rip Off?



On my morning walk, I listen to podcasts and 1 of my favourites is Andy Frisella's The MFCEO project. As you can probably guess from the title, Andy often rants... and today was one of those times.

His rant today was about a subject close to my heart - the seminar sell fest. You know, the seminar that costs a lot, has lots of speakers who give you a taste of the answer BUT it will only cost $5k or $10k to get the rest.

It has been reported that Andy, as the keynote for these seminars, is paid up to $80,000 for the hour. His rant today was that the money wasn't worth it as everyone who attended was being sold another course to have a chance at success. Andy wasn't selling BUT at $80k probably didn't need to. Anyway, the rant was "why Andy wasn't speaking anymore!" and it was a refreshing expose of the industry.

Now some disclosure - I have been in the seminar business for many years - from 1975 in fact, but our model had always been, what you pay yo come should be all you need to pay. Over the years, our model faltered, as you could go to talk/sell fests like The World Internet Summit, and be sold lots of "stuff". People believed that "Free?" sessions were better value than $150 a day sessions because they could resist the urge to invest that $5k for the course that would make them rich.

The combined result was lots of credit card debt, lots of broken promises, and both the sensible seminar and the talk fest models being broken. At least in Australia, the seminar crowd woke up to the selling lie.

Unfortunately, the paid model is only just coming back but I am a little over the travelling.
The basis of Andy's rant was that he wasn't going to speak any more at sessions where it relied on a couple of big names [hime and Gary Vanyerchuck for example] to draw crowds to be sold the "secret sauce".

Let's hope that is the case - but in 50 plus years this seems like an endless cycle.

Originally Published in Rebootology

Tuesday, March 05, 2019

Australian Summer - flies, sunburn and FIRES!



The news this year has been drought, floods and fire - probably the same as any year and here in Perth as we experience the first week of autumn, temperatures are exceeding 35c and it seems finally summer has arrived.

I am sure the weather changes - and sayings that sustained my mother seem not to mean as much ' things like "red sky in the morning, shepherds warning..." or "November Gales" etc...

Mum's favourite television program was "the weather" and we also had a barometer on the wall [hands up anyone who remembers those]

Monday, March 04, 2019

What's in a song?




One of my favourite coffee shops closed for good last week... the coffee was OK [ that is a compliment ] but the music was non-negotiable and BAD.

It was loud and NOT what the majority of customers would have chosen if given the choice. The coffee shop in Beaufort Street Mount Lawley [ Cantina 663 ] was staffed by funky young people but in my experience was frequented by 55 plus well-heeled locals - who grew up on the Beatles and the Rolling Stones.

Many requests to "change the music" as requested by my guests were greeted with the music can't be changed but I can turn it down a bit which normally didn't last long.

So at least 4 of my coffee mates told me "can we have coffee " elsewhere... so conservatively just from me that is $100 a month that goes somewhere else... and obviously others voted with their wallet as the FOR LEASE sign attests.

I ponder this as my breakfast place allows the horror of the world in when one customer controls the TV and bad news morning TV.

The world shouldn't be controlled by the least tolerant person but often it is until it isn't.

Just saying...

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

The Sins of the Father




Australian's of faith are divided today...

The "biggest scalp" has been claimed - maybe as is the way, just temporarily if the appeal process returns a different result - Cardinal Pell has been convicted of an unlikely charge but the chorus is signing loudly that they finally have their man.

I suppose people who have been ignored for so long feel vindicated.

My thoughts about the obscene wealth of the Catholic Church when as a tourist I visited the Vatican 20 years ago... I thought the Church was all about helping the poor... obviously, not here!

So, as someone who went to Sunday Mass for nearly 20 years so my kids would have a faith to choose from rather than a faith to choose... who wins out of this?? Not the victims are their champions as they move onto someone else to ear down... not the people of faith who have to rethink their beliefs... not the press who scream shrilly... nobody wins... it is a sad world.

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Little Boy Lost



There is a heart-wrenching story on today's news mediums of two very young boys who went missing and have been found dead and I wonder what will happen to little ones actually being allowed to explore on their own?

My very young life was spent in a different time and a different place - the 1950s and 1960s Margaret River. I remember many hours playing war games on the banks of the Margaret River which was immediately behind our house. My mother, I am sure worried about me, but when pressed, she would say... "He will come home when he is hungry" which I usually did.

As a teenager, I was dropped off at the mouth of the Margaret River about 9am and picked up at 4pm being able to surf, swim or explore without supervision or company.

I am sure very few kids of the 21st Century have those adventures or freedom - I continue that spirit by walking 10 kilometres every morning in cities I visit as I travel which have included Los Angeloe, London, Rome, Barcelona, Naples, Doha, Sydney, Brisbane and all points in between.

I have to remind myself that our front door should be locked... don't do that and your insurance won't pay!

Who or what's to blame for us becoming wimps?? My thoughts are social programs such as "Stranger Danger" and "Neighbourhood Watch". Do you, your kids or grandkids ride a bike to school as I did... or did you give up riding when it became law to wear a helmet?

Sunday, February 24, 2019

Mentors or Heros... Books change the equation



I am listening to Seth Godin as I write this post...
He said "Mentors are overrated BUT heroes are unlimited - just read about there thoughts.


Tuesday, February 19, 2019

When is a bullet train NOT a bullet train?



An article came across my desk about a traveller ticketing off a bucket list entry: The bullet train in Japan

What struck me is that the train got to 280 kilometres per hour and I remembered that the express train from Milan to Naples in ital has a speed readout that mesmerised me as it ticked over from 299 to 300 km/h but somehow it didn't seem that we were ticking off a bucket list event. And I am sure not many others were sitting in awe.

Mmmm maybe I will be nonplussed when I do get to ride that Japanese bullet train.

Originally Published in Rebootology

Sunday, February 17, 2019

Too small to make a difference


Have you ever thought that you are o insignificant that your voice would be lost??

I am reminded about the mosquito and the elephant - tell that to an elephant after a mossie has bitten him on the trunk or, in my case, the mossie that bit my knee yesterday at the coffee stop... and that really hurts.

Whatever your standing in life, your voice matters.

Originally Published in Rebootology

Friday, February 15, 2019

Life Lessons



In the last few days, I have had some interesting distractions... the voice in my head keeps saying "how good does it have to get before you stuff it up?" and the other voice saying, "How bad does it have to get before you do something about it?"

I don't remember the high point but the low point surely came recently but I can feel the change in momentum because I asked for and got help from a number of people who really didn't know about the "how bad"

So:

In life, the question is not if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. If the possibility of failure were erased, what would you attempt to achieve?

Thanks for all the help and kind thoughts.


Originally Published in Rebootology

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

When is enough stuff enough?


Originally Published in Rebootology

I needed to visit the local supermarket yesterday to get a new light globe as the "new power saving one" was too dull... to get what used to cost less than a dollar came to $16... and if I left it on for 7 hours a day it costs $8 a day in power... seems a to me.

BUT: I can see again!

Monday, February 11, 2019

Who are "they"?


Every day we hear the statement "they" won't let us do...

Do you know "who" they are?

The world is basically split into 2 camps - those who agree with "whatever" and those who don't! And time shows that neither side will actually change their point of view. The people with "power" in 2019 are those who haven't made up their mind. When one of these people makes up their mind it gives power to the majority view... for example, we have a political debate in Australia about asylum seekers on islands coming to Australia - 48% of the population don't want them to and 48% do... the 4% in the middle have the power... get them on side and you become the power.

In past times there was no mechanism to harness that 4% but social media has given them a voice -#metoo and the Twitterverse are examples.

I saw a story yesterday where a woman complained about being asked by another woman to cover up as she was dressed skimply on a plane - it became a story because she commented she had been "slut-shamed" and the media [ now irrelevant ] gave it a headline and it became a story... in times gone by, nobody would know and it wouldn't be a story.

I wonder how many like me thought "Good on" the steward for broaching the subject but her superiors were weak kneed for no supporting her 100% - they gave out a $50 voucher that just inflamed the offended [ that 4% ] even more...

Sad old world... my problem is that I like 96% od the rest but the 4% is really getting up my goat.

Ahhh well my coffee is getting cold!


Originally Published in Rebootology

Saturday, February 09, 2019

Irish Dave ???




I know it isn't politically correct but he calls himself Irish Dave! An Irishman in America telling jokes none the less.

This morning I was excited by what I had to listen to - the Cal Fussman Podcast The BIG question...

The guests were Irish Dave [ an Irish american] and Arash Bayatmakou [ a Persian - Iranish American ] and their story was inspiring - the overcoming of total disaster and using laughter to build hope and achievement.

You should listen to it and all good podcasts!

Cal Fussman


Originally Published in Rebootology

Are you...




A rebootologist?? That is someone who enjoys their third wave life.

As I look at the way forward one of the recurring themes is the disaster that has been overcome... for those of us who don't have that experience those stories don't resonate.

For example... when I was a teenager and most of my adult life, claiming your issues were a result of mental health problems was a no-no. Therefore, I don't know of or relate to anybody who blames their mental health on their situation. Is that the same for you?

For example, when I was asked the first time "R U OK " I wasn't sure what the question was about?? But it is part of the movement to talk about "mental health." Another example of a situation or movement which I don't relate to is "The men's shed". Apparently, you do there to deal with your demons.

Don't get me wrong, I am sure there were people with mental health issues in my life. They were talked about differently - the dentist in Margaret River where I grew up, took a rifle and killed himself. People were shocked but that was life... depression was called "mental breakdown" and you spent a week or three in the hospital and came back fixed.

When I launched Rebootology I remember a successful but now retired businessman saying to me... "It's not like a men's shed is it?"

So, if you have lived a good life, and want more of it, join me on this journey.


Originally Published in Rebootology

Thursday, February 07, 2019

Mmmm Saturday again



As you get more years on the clock, time seems to rush. It only seems like it was last Saturday and here I am again sipping coffee and posting to my Facebook page.

The NOISE today is Jeff Bezos, the world's richest man until the divorce comes through, hitting back at threats to publish "D##k" photos somehow stolen from his phone... I think the bigger question is... why??

As I hear these stories about embarrassing photos I wonder, sometimes aloud, why would someone do it when the world will find out?

And as I set out home on my 10 km walk I will probably wonder again - is $100 Billion enough to attract the girl?


Originally Published in Rebootology

Tuesday, February 05, 2019

Among the Daffodils by Erik Rittenberry



My face is beginning to show the battle scars of time. My heart seems to care less for things I once held as relevant.
As the years unravel, things make less sense.
The hangovers last a few days now instead of a few hours.
Beautiful dreams once lucid are now blurred. The idea of
God weakens with every atrocious deed I see in the world.
Politics is a hopeless endeavour, just like our obscene habit of obedience. The debt bubble we’ve swallowed as “prosperity”, is on the verge. The wars have grown tiresome, nobody cares about them anymore.
Everybody is trying to sell a lifestyle; they want you to live like them; they want you to buy their life-changing product or get behind their great cause; they have the secret, they say, just follow them.
The church wants confessions but I think we’re all out. The witless hipsters ride vintage bikes on Perth sidewalks to coffee shops that were once brothels and asylums.
Overmedicated & indebted men find it difficult to have conversations beyond their jobs or football. Women do yoga on weekends and gossip on long walks about husbands who’ve lost that intestinal fortitude.
The 88-year-old man, with his retirement and dignity, wasted away by inflation, bags groceries at the corner supermarket to pay for his myriad of medications.
The dogs have grown bored of their masters. The cats gave up on us long ago. The sparrows flutter higher in the sky than they used to.
The books of Whitman, Emerson and Thoreau sit dusty on bookshelves as the television scorches and burns.
Where’s the promise of victory?
We’re being led somewhere by the outside far away from the treasure inside.
As the tribes’ march in lockstep to their ordered destination, I lie in the meadow just beyond the bloody streams surrounded by golden daffodils, and as the rain rinses me of oblivion, I’m lifted from the hollow abyss into the universal radiance where the five senses become one.

Originally Published in Rebootology

Sunday, February 03, 2019

I must be getting old!



Where I have coffee every morning at 5 am there is a TV and this lady Anne comes in, Sits as far away as she can after turning on the TV as loud as it goes... and then proceeds to do the crossword puzzle. And there is no such things as uplifting morning TV... and to add insult, she leaves,,, nobody is watching the TV but it is blaring out its crap...

Yes, I must be getting old... today I decided the eyephones would cut all the shit out and I am listening to Paul McCartney.

Why did I think of that before - that's right I am getting older!!

Originally Published in Rebootology

Friday, February 01, 2019

The Art of Story Telling



If you want to activate your thinking whilst on your morning walk, my recommendation is to listen to Cal Fusman's podcast Big Question. I use pocketcast app [ a paid one ] because I can increase the speed but you could use Apple's free option [ I am sure Google also have a free option]

Today he interviews John Livesay a salesman who talks about the value of Storytelling. It inspired me to get the audible book - great stuff and my mind is on fire.

Originally Published in Rebootology

Thursday, January 31, 2019

Don’t let your circumstances change you




“There once was a blind woman who hated herself purely because she could not see. The only person she loved was her boyfriend, as he was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, then she would marry him.
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her – now she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her loving boyfriend asked her, ‘Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?’
The woman was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and wrote a short note to her saying: ‘Just take care of my eyes, dear.'”


Wednesday, January 30, 2019

Your good deeds could change the world




“Every Sunday morning I take a light jog around a park near my home.  There’s a lake located in one corner of the park. Each time I jog by this lake, I see the same elderly woman sitting at the water’s edge with a small metal cage sitting beside her.
This past Sunday my curiosity got the best of me, so I stopped jogging and walked over to her. As I got closer, I realized that the metal cage was, in fact, a small trap. There were three turtles, unharmed, slowly walking around the base of the trap. She had a fourth turtle in her lap that she was carefully scrubbing with a spongy brush.
‘Hello,’ I said. ‘I see you here every Sunday morning.  If you don’t mind my nosiness, I’d love to know what you’re doing with these turtles.’
She smiled. ‘I’m cleaning off their shells,” she replied. “Anything on a turtle’s shell, like algae or scum, reduces the turtle’s ability to absorb heat and impedes its ability to swim. It can also corrode and weaken the shell over time.’
‘Wow! That’s really nice of you!’ I exclaimed.
She went on: ‘I spend a couple of hours each Sunday morning, relaxing by this lake and helping these little guys out. It’s my own strange way of making a difference.’
‘But don’t most freshwater turtles live their whole lives with algae and scum hanging from their shells?’ I asked.
‘Yep, sadly, they do,’ she replied.
I scratched my head. ‘Well then, don’t you think your time could be better spent? I mean, I think your efforts are kind and all, but there are freshwater turtles living in lakes all around the world. And 99% of these turtles don’t have kind people like you to help them clean off their shells.  So, no offense… but how exactly are your localized efforts here truly making a difference?’
The woman giggled aloud. She then looked down at the turtle in her lap, scrubbed off the last piece of algae from its shell, and said, ‘Sweetie, if this little guy could talk, he’d tell you I just made all the difference in the world.'”


Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Don’t screw over your friends




“Vijay and Raju were friends. One day while on holiday, exploring a forest, they saw a bear coming towards them.
Naturally, they were both frightened, so Raju, who knew how to climb trees, climbed one quickly. He didn’t spare a thought for his friend who had no idea how to climb.
Vijay thought for a moment. He had heard that animals don’t attack dead bodies, so he fell to the ground and held his breath. The bear sniffed him, thought he was dead, and went on its way.
Raju, after he had climbed down from the tree asked Vijay, ‘What did the bear whisper in your ears?’
Vijay replied, ‘The bear asked me to keep away from friends like you.'”


Monday, January 28, 2019

Stop stressing so much




“Once upon a time a psychology professor walked around on a stage while teaching stress management principles to an auditorium filled with students. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the typical ‘glass half empty or glass half full’ question. Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, ‘How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?’
Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple of pounds.
She replied, ‘From my perspective, the absolute weight of this glass doesn’t matter.  It all depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute or two, it’s fairly light. If I hold it for an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache a little. If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up and feel completely numb and paralyzed, forcing me to drop the glass to the floor. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.’
As the class shook their heads in agreement, she continued, ‘Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and you begin to ache a little. Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else until you drop them.'”


Sunday, January 27, 2019

You get what you give




“Once, there was a farmer who regularly sold butter to a baker. One day, the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting the exact amount that he asked for. He found out that he wasn’t, so he took the farmer to court.
The judge asked the farmer if he uses any measure to weigh the butter. The farmer replied, ‘Your Honor, I’m primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale.’
The judge replied, “Then how do you weigh the butter?”
The farmer replied; “Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day, when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it’s the baker.’
Moral of the story:In life, you get what you give. Don’t try to cheat others.

Saturday, January 26, 2019

Don’t assume you are going to fail



“During a research experiment, a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.
As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.
Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off. Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail.  Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition. Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.
This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually, the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.
The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the shark didn’t attack. The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.”

Friday, January 25, 2019

Learn from your problems




“A man’s favorite donkey falls into a deep precipice. He can’t pull it out no matter how hard he tries. He, therefore, decides to bury it alive.
The soil is poured onto the donkey from above. The donkey feels the load, shakes it off, and steps on it. More soil is poured.
It shakes it off and steps up. The more the load was poured, the higher it rose. By noon, the donkey was grazing in green pastures.”


Thursday, January 24, 2019

Stop chasing happiness




“An old man lived in the village. The whole village was tired of him; he was always gloomy, he constantly complained and was always in a bad mood. The longer he lived, the viler he became and more poisonous were his words. People did their best to avoid him because his misfortune was contagious. He created the feeling of unhappiness in others.
But one day, when he turned eighty, an incredible thing happened. Instantly everyone started hearing the rumor: ‘The old man is happy today, he doesn’t complain about anything, smiles, and even his face is freshened up.’
The whole village gathered around the man and asked him, “What happened to you?”
The old man replied, ‘Nothing special. Eighty years I’ve been chasing happiness and it was useless. And then I decided to live without happiness and just enjoy life. That’s why I’m happy now.'”


Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Enjoy the moment



“After spending nearly every waking minute with Angel for eight straight days, I knew that I had to tell her just one thing. So late at night, just before she fell asleep, I whispered it in her ear. She smiled – the kind of smile that makes me smile back –and she said, ‘When I’m seventy-five and I think about my life and what it was like to be young, I hope that I can remember this very moment.’
A few seconds later she closed her eyes and fell asleep. The room was peaceful – almost silent. All I could hear was the soft purr of her breathing. I stayed awake thinking about the time we’d spent together and all the choices in our lives that made this moment possible. And at some point, I realized that it didn’t matter what we’d done or where we’d gone. Nor did the future hold any significance.
All that mattered was the serenity of the moment.
Just being with her and breathing with her.”


Tuesday, January 22, 2019

Think outside of the box



“In a small Italian town, hundreds of years ago, a small business owner owed a large sum of money to a loan-shark. The loan-shark was a very old, unattractive looking guy that just so happened to fancy the business owner’s daughter.
He decided to offer the businessman a deal that would completely wipe out the debt he owed him. However, the catch was that we would only wipe out the debt if he could marry the businessman’s daughter. Needless to say, this proposal was met with a look of disgust.
The loan-shark said that he would place two pebbles into a bag, one white and one black.
The daughter would then have to reach into the bag and pick out a pebble. If it was black, the debt would be wiped, but the loan-shark would then marry her. If it was white, the debt would also be wiped, but the daughter wouldn’t have to marry the loan-shark.
Standing on a pebble-strewn path in the businessman’s garden, the loan-shark bent over and picked up two pebbles. Whilst he was picking them up, the daughter noticed that he’d picked up two black pebbles and placed them both into the bag.
He then asked the daughter to reach into the bag and pick one.
The daughter naturally had three choices as to what she could have done:
  1. Refuse to pick a pebble from the bag.
  2. Take both pebbles out of the bag and expose the loan-shark for cheating.
  3. Pick a pebble from the bag fully well knowing it was black and sacrifice herself for her father’s freedom.
She drew out a pebble from the bag, and before looking at it ‘accidentally’ dropped it into the midst of the other pebbles. She said to the loan-shark;
‘Oh, how clumsy of me. Never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.’
The pebble left in the bag is obviously black, and seeing as the loan-shark didn’t want to be exposed, he had to play along as if the pebble the daughter dropped was white, and clear her father’s debt.”



Monday, January 21, 2019

Don’t judge others before you know them




“A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…
‘Dad, look the trees are going behind!’
Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…
‘Dad, look the clouds are running with us!’
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…
‘Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?’
The old man smiled and said…’I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.’
Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.”



Sunday, January 20, 2019

Even though you’re damaged, you still have value



“A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, ‘Who would like this $20 bill?’
200 hands went up.
He said, ‘I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.’ He crumpled the bill up.
He then asked, ‘Who still wants it?’
All 200 hands were still raised.
‘Well,’ he replied, ‘What if I do this?’ Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.
He picked it up and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.
‘Now who still wants it?’
All the hands still went up.
‘My friends, I have just shown you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special-Don't ever forget it!’


Saturday, January 19, 2019

Ignore the haters


“A group of frogs was traveling through the forest when two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that there was no hope left for them.
However, the two frogs ignored their comrades and proceeded to try to jump out of the pit. However, despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of the pit were still saying that they should just give up as they’d never make it out.
Eventually, one of the frogs took heed of what the others were saying and he gave up, jumping even deeper to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the group of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and to just die.
He ignored them, and jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, ‘Did you not hear us?’
The frog explained to them that he was deaf and that he thought they were encouraging him the entire time.”


Friday, January 18, 2019

Be kind to others even if it hurts you



“In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.
‘How much is an ice cream sundae?’
’50 cents’ replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied a number of coins in it.
‘How much is a dish of plain ice cream?’ he inquired. Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was a bit impatient.
’35 cents,’ she said brusquely.
The little boy again counted the coins. ‘I’ll have the plain ice cream,’ he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and departed.
When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw.
There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were 15 cents – her tip.”



Thursday, January 17, 2019

Don’t insult the things you wish you could have



‘One afternoon, a fox was walking through the forest and spotted a bunch of grapes hanging from a lofty branch.
‘Just the thing to quench my thirst,’ he thought.
Taking a couple of steps back, the fox jumped and just missed the hanging grapes. The fox tried again but still failed to reach them.
Finally, giving up, the fox turned his nose up and said, ‘They’re probably sour anyway,’ and walked away.”


Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Your reaction matters more than what happens to you




“Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.
He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.
After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the boiled eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. ‘Daughter, what do you see?’
‘Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,’ she hastily replied.
‘Look closer,’ he said, ‘and touch the potatoes.’ She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
‘Father, what does this mean?’ she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.
However, each one reacted differently.
The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.
The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.
However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.
‘Which are you,’ he asked his daughter. ‘When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?’