Not to decide is to decide
is often credited to Harvey Cox
I found this explanation today:
Many times we have a decision to be make that we don’t want to make. It’s a difficult decision because someone might get their feelings hurt, you might get hurt, it will cost you money, it will cost you time or you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone. No one wants to feel uncomfortable. Ugh! I know I don’t. So, what do we do? We put off making the decision or we say, “I’m just not going to do anything and see what happens.” And, just so you know, that is not not making a decision, that is actually a decision. But we say we won’t decide so we can release ourselves from the outcome in the event things don’t go favorably.
Sometimes, you really can’t decide what to do. Your brain freezes and there are just too many options and you haven’t the slightest idea of which road you should take. Just realize that you always have a choice and if you decide to let the pieces lay where they may, that is your decision. So, the next time you have a tough decision to make, ask yourself if by not doing anything are you going to be happy with the result.