Tuesday, January 26, 2010
He leaves his socks around, he gets so into his movie he can't hear you calling. He works past 6pm and has this habit of eating too much bread, which is not necessarily healthy. He snores. He won't do dishes. He is often critical of my cooking. I complain about it all... but does he listen? Nope.
But wait! Flash back and reminders to Self:
He is a hard worker and provides for his family.
He is complimentory when I've succeeded a great meal
He picks up the table after supper
He occupies our 3 year old so I can take a breather
He suggests a night at the pizza place when we've had a tough week
He makes a pretty delicious chai latte in the evenings....
A widow recently made a comment that shifted my perception, she said "I would love to see his dirty socks lying around everywhere, beacause that would mean he is here".
So yes, when the annoying aspects arise, I embrace them, for they are as much a reminder that he is here with me as the enjoyable aspects he offers, which reminds me that he is here for me.
Lesson learned? Life with a spouse is never always bliss - but it's better than being on a ship and facing stormy weathers alone.
By Natalie (other stories from her at http://www.the3keysoflife.com/)